ANGER -AN EVITABLE HOST AND AN INEVITABLE GUEST

IF YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE A MAGNIFICENT STORY , THEN BEGIN BY REALIZING THAT YOU ARE THE AUTHOR AND EVERYDAY YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO WRITE A NEW PAGE.

                          MARK HOULAHAN

                                                   Courtesy

                                 AVOID ANGER

                ACHIEVE ALL

Anger is compared to fire as it destroys our as well as others peace of mind and happiness .

 If we stand up with anger, we have to sit with loss.

Why do we get angry?

What are  its consequences ?

How to handle it prudently?

  Unmet needs ,desires aspirations,  unexpected failures, trying circumstances , unpleasant situations, inexplicable and inevitable ordeals ,and undue demands and pressures are the triggers to make us angry.

We may feel angry at our own helplessness,  the failures and setbacks  we face in our life,  the sudden sacrifices we have to make , and the odd and eccentric  behavior of our friends and relatives provoking us in one way or other.

Suppose on a Monday morning you are ready  to go to your office .You have to drop your son at  his school on your way.. At  that time your son is searching for his ID. You will get angry .

You can react as follows:

You may not  get tension and you help your son to get his ID. You warn him to be more responsible in future.

You may scold him.

You may beat him also

You may go to the office alone .  

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Sometimes we may feel angry towards ourselves Most of the time our anger will be targeting others as they may be the reason for such a situation by their actions.

We show our anger in different ways.

Some will play it cool and don’t react at all but keep silent.

Some may whisper and talk to themselves

Some will shout and use abusive words ,

Some talk sarcastically wounding others

Some act violently and causing psychical injury.

Some give mental torture .     .

Some may  forget themselves and commit heinous crimes like murder .

Even war is born out  of anger.

Angry people are wicked ,vindictive, and some may commit crimes .If we yield to our anger we may ignore the result and it may create many a problem..

If we try to see the positive aspect and the  silver lining of any incident  which is capable of instigating anger in us we can manage the same and thereby we can escape the consequence .

If we develop a simple and humble persona and give no room for our anger we would be respected and we would be trusted also.

Sometimes youth belongs to the present young generation try to vent their anger through the social media like Facebook , Twitter, and Whats App.It may give a short-lived  kick, but in the long run it affects your personality.  This virtual world holds all the principles applicable to our civilized society.When we put  some awkward and unacceptable  postings we expose ourselves as weak and ill-mannered persons . As the ball  thrown towards the wall comes back to us we have to bear the brunt of our own mischief actions which affects  our social life.

To control our anger, we should follow the following two rules.

Rule No 1
Imagine your mind as a garden
Put up fence made of wit and wisdom to safeguard from wrong, negative and selfish thoughts
Grow only plants that fetch fruits of  love and affection 
and flowers of tolerance and togetherness to enjoy the tranquility and happiness

Rule No 2
Remember the rule No 1 and revisit your garden and renovate 

Live a more fulfilling life and help others to do the same.